I have this brilliant group of women I talk with/type with from a well known site The Bump.com. We July 2010 mamas decided to branch off and make an exclusive Facebook club! It's about the only exclusive club a mom can get into with a baby on her hip - so we take what we can get! The ladies are wonderful - you can complain, compare (within reason), brag & post anything you feel fits with what moms deal with.
One of the great moms posted this: Don't Carpe Diem - of course I jumped on the chance to read an article that goes against every grain of old wisdom! Glennen Melton writes, that although there are moments where we cherish the moments of being a parents, much of it is hard work! You hear all the time as a mom that you should be so thankful, love every moment, as they're fleeting.
Although I do agree that it's important to find joy in every situation, I think it's rather unrealistic. It puts an incredible amount of pressure on a parent to be forever happy, successful and perfect. Most of motherhood is confusing, frustrating and sticky. Of course there are plenty of small moments where you realize yet again that the love you feel, you would never truly know without this little whirlwind in your life.
It's funny that this was posted on a day like today where my sweet 18 month old Mia who refuses to even try saying a word other than cat, cried continuously for 3 hours in frustration of not getting what she wanted. I cried. I called my mom. She just said - you're doing a good job! Which was exactly what I needed to hear. Just because each day is not 'perfect' - doesn't mean I am a bad mom.
So rather than Carpe Diem - I love what Melton suggested - simply be thankful for the moments where your mind steps away from the chaos of mamahood and appreciate those. All of life does not need to be lived in ecstasy.
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